You criticize me and I'll criticize you.
We'll hate each other. We'll appreciate each other. We'll fall-in-words.
Then one of us gets dumped by the other . . . and all hell breaks lose for the person dumped.
Critique Partners . . . some come and go, others stick together, and some simply don't work out. But what happens if you do work out, and then for unforeseen circumstances, you have to go your separate paths? I would assume in some ways you would feel stuck or that your writing would suffer a bit. Mine would suffer a lot. They are, after all, a very important part in our writing process.
I have my team: my CP's, my betas, my cheerleaders AND heart-crushers, my cover designer, my editor, my husband, my mother, and my kids. I know I would suffer if I was to lose any of their support (yes, the kids support me even if they don't know it. I'm their mother- I said so), but I want to focus on the CP's at the moment. The ones I have totally get me and I would be lost if for whatever reason our partnership ends. Obviously, I wouldn't be the one leaving them since I already plan on stalking them until they give in and pledge allegiance until the end of times. But since there's no way to know how that will turn out, I wonder how people deal with this kind of issue. Maybe they take time to mourn, they throw a party, or do they just move on to the next one? *shrugs*
There is another side of course. I'm also their CP and I'm insecure about what I have to offer them. I can be brutally honest, because after all that is what I signed up for and hope its what they expect. This doesn't mean I know what I'm talking about, though. I just share my opinion, nag them a bit here and there, and throw some ideas at them. But who knows? They may not always be into that kind of kink. I'm that person who starts regretting notes and sweats bullets right after I've hit "send". Then I cross my fingers, and hope they still wanna be my friends after they're done. So . . . I might just be the one to push them away, either by annoying them to the point of hate or by not helping them enough. I don't know. But since we're here, I will tell you two things: 1- I hope neither of them read this and get ideas about leaving me, and 2- If they do break up with me, you are all going to help me kidnap, tickle, and get them drunk enough so I can force them to sign a life-long contract.
Deal? That was my plan all along, write this and have you read it, and now that you know, you'll go down as accomplices . . . unless we do this right. And if you feel as strongly as I do about my CP's, no worries! I got your back. I will sign up to help you keep yours. (You're welcome.)
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